So, you want to know how submit to a Dominant woman. For our purposes here, I am focusing on tips for in person submission. Like any successful relationship, it takes time and effort. Be patient, be diligent.
Understanding Your Submission First
Something brought you to the realization that you are submissive BUT that is a broad term that can mean many things. Lots of exciting things, but what submissives are into is as vast as the stars in the sky. Some might be into : submission in the bedroom only, submission out of the bedroom, enjoy chastity cages and denial, want to suck cock, or love edging. Some want to be a Sissy Submissives, some want to be spanked, tied up, or humiliated. And still others are service driven and want to be used for tasks.
Before you can seek a dominant Goddess to connect with, you have to understand a bit about your own submission. Of course on your journey with a dominant woman you will learn about about your submission but you have to have a starting point. You may not have all the answers yet, but you need a baseline. If your Dominant Goddess is into pegging, or bondage, and you are not, you may not be a good fit. Once you know what kind of submissive you are, you can start looking for your Dominant.
How To Submit to a Dominant Woman : Finding a Domme
Like any search, you have to put the effort in. A good starting point is finding online websites that cater to BDSM lifestyles. A simple google search with help you find them. It’s important to represent yourself when you make a profile on a site. Here is the million dollar advice, “Take the time to show that your search is import to you.” You don’t have to post a pic, but DO write about yourself, give a potential Domme a glimpse of who you are and what you seek. The more specific you can be, the better.
When you decide to reach out to Dominant woman, be sure and make it about her. If you are opening with your list of kinks, trust me, she will be immediately turned off. Instead read her bio, and find where you share something in common. Perhaps you are both seeking a FLR (Female Lead Relationship), that’s a great point of connection. Things you may want to talk about initially are power dynamics, what submission means to you, and how you are looking to be trained by a like minded Domme.
Don’t take it personally if she doesn’t respond, Dommes get tons of messages and it takes time to sort through them all. If she doesn’t respond at all, then the message is, she doesn’t think you are a fit.
How To Submit to a Dominant Woman : BDSM Relationships
No two BDSM relationships will ever look the same. Together you must discover the dynamic that can thrive for the both of you, BUT always give your Domme the respect of allowing her to lead even when it involves trial and error. . Whether you are in a Female Led Relationship, a more casual submissive training dynamic or even if it’s about straight up learning how best you can serve your Domme. Take the time to learn what she expects from you. It will be important that hard limits are discussed in the beginning, so she knows what is off the table for you. BUT beware, some Dommes enjoy pushing your boundaries, and it’s possible you will end up enjoying it to! Surrendering your power to your Domme can be one of the most satisfying experiences of your life.
Tips for Submitting to a Dominant Woman:
- Be sure and communicate honestly about your desires and hard limits. Be an open book for your Domme.
- Respect her authority and strive to always follow her instructions. Ask questions if they are not clear.
- When you relinquish control, embrace your vulnerability.
- Find ways to show your dedication and loyalty through acts of service. Both those requested and those you bring to the table on your own accord. Start to anticipate her needs.
- It’s critical to prioritize her pleasure over your own. Remember if she allows you release, it is a privilege, not a necessity in her eyes.
- When punishment is issued, take it with grace and understanding that it is for your betterment, and possibly her entertainment.
- Embrace the way she dominates you and never compare her style to any other Domme.
- Learn how she wants her submissive to present himself. Does she want a CFNM dynamic? In a chastity cage? What should be shaved? Become familiar with all her preferences.
- Be open to trying new things and having new experiences.
- Understand the more time you spend together, the more exciting and successful your dynamic will be.
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Goddess Skylar
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I love how beautifully and with ease you describe the situation. It’s so close to my heart. It’s exactly how I feel. I so love reading your articles they are exactly tuned to my vibration of how I understand dominance.
Thank you!
Have a wonderful day Goddess Skylar!
Awe Thank you so much Casandra. That made me smile! I hope you will check back often to see new posts! I have so much to share!
I will definitely love to come back! Thank you for your kind words.
A very well-written post. There isn’t anything that I can add. If you are chosen by Ms. Skylar you are a truly privileged soul.
Wow SDW you know how to make a Goddess feel appreciated! xxxx
Hello Ms Skylar, I have a question: Do you have some good martial arts and self-defence skills? I ask the question because by the looks of the pictures with this article, you often seem to leave men flat on their backs (and knocked out cold??).
No Michael,
No martial arts required. When you are powerful, you can make a guy do just about anything with just a look. Trust me, these baby blues are all it takes. lol.
There is nothing sexier than a strong dominant woman especially when at times she forces her way onto me whether physically or mentally.
That’s my idea of a good time Tatiana. xxxx
Thank you Master Skylar for the intelligent breakdown on how to submit to you properly.
I hope you took good notes. You shall need them. Perhaps I will even give you a pop quiz lol
Mistress Skylar,
You have to be the most fascinating, intelligent, well spoken, and knowledgeable person that I have come across since I realized that I wanted to be submissive, and that was in 1992. I’m 73 yo and disabled, blog is something I’ve only heard about. But I will be following you. If I get on your nerves, please let me know. I don’t have filters, “what comes up, comes out”. May I have your permission to follow you?
Of course luv you may follow mem and feel free to share your thoughts on anything here on my blog. I do love reading comments.
Thank you for that lovely sweet compliment, it truly blew me away. xxxx