This post will give you some great tips for finding the right Mistress at LDW.
LDW is a very special place with many different types of Mistresses, but how do you go about finding the right Mistress for you? Here are some tips and things to think about.
The Photo
Let’s face it, physical will always be the initial draw. If you are into blondes, there is a good chance you are going to be drawn to a blonde Mistress. But you might be surprised as you peruse the photos that you see something that draws you in even if the Mistress is not blonde. Is her smile? Those legs? Her eyes? The passion in her eyes? Finding a photo you are intrigued by is always a good first step BUT is is just the tip of the iceberg!
The Kink Connection
When you start to read bios, pay close attention to the kinks the Mistress is into. You want to make sure you find someone who is into the same kinks you are. Read every word of her bio. The kink match is very very important but keep in mind, you may read about one of her kinks and decide you are curious about it, so it’s worth the time investigating what a Mistress is into. Who knows, you may discover a new kink you didn’t even know existed. Have you heard of the Giantess kink? The CFNM kink? What about CEI kink? There are thousands of kinks out there!
Kinks can be very specific or very general, and if it’s unclear if she is into something, email and ask.
The Voice
What draws you to a voice is, for the most part, a mystery. But you may find yourself drawn to a particular audio vibe. Here’s a breakdown of some of the voices you might hear on LDW:
- Innocent and Sweet – This voice is soft, bubbly and very approachable. Her vibe is friendly and warm. She may still be dominant, but a soft Domme.
- The Sultry Seductress -The timbers of her vocal prowess give you physical shivers down your spine and make your mouth water. There is an almost raw musicality to her voice and you could literally listen to her read the dictionary and be turned on. Her allure is powerful.
- The Playful Tease– Light, giggly , mischievous, but sexy nonetheless. You envision a cheerleader or naughty nurse. This voice keeps things very flirty and fun, keeping you guessing what’s coming next. When she Dominates, it’s done in a very playful way. You will long for her tease, and so want to please.
- The Dominant – Lower tones that are commanding and authoratative. This voice just exudes control and strength. This voice enjoys telling you what to do and how to do it. Confidence radiates with every word spoken.
- Exotic Mystery – A voice with an accent, the sheer uniqueness of it draws you in. Words are pronounced differently and it feel mysterious, erotic and excitingly different. You will find yourself curious about this exotic beauty and the way her words dance off her tongue.
The Personality
The voice and personality really go hand in hand. There are some key questions to ask yourself in regards to the personality of a Mistress:
- Do you seek someone in charge? Someone who leads the call?
- Do you seek more of a fantasy experience or more realistic experience?
- Do you want someone who is a good listener?
- Do you prefer the Mistress do most of the talking?
- Do you prefer an intelligent Mistress, someone very cerebral?
- Do you seek an emotional connection of sorts?
- Do you want someone that makes you laugh?
- Do you want a harsher, strict Mistress who can be a bit cruel?
- Do you want a more sensual personality?
- Do you want someone that humiliates you?
These are just a few questions to get you thinking about what you seek.
Tips for finding the right LDW Mistress: The Mistress Blogs
On Every Mistress bio you will find a link to their blog, and this is one of the best ways to really get inside her mind and see what she is all about. Think of her blog as the key to unlocking some of her secrets. Blogs not only will tell you what she enjoys but they will tell you a great deal about her personality. So get to reading blogs to see what Mistress intrigues you!
Finally, you can ask Dispatch, when you can, for their recommendations.
Happy Mistress hunting Guys!
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Email me at: Skylar@enchantrixempire.com
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Every Mistress/Goddess has a different take on the following: what is the difference between a submissive and a slave? Love Your thoughtfulness and forthcoming perspective on these issues, therefore i would love to hear Your thoughts !!
Hi Kaney, I actually answered your question on my blog this week and you can read my answer here: https://yourkinkadvisor.com/dear-skylar-answers-november-22nd/
OMG Goddess Skylar,
All I could think of was good thing I licked your boots to claim you….you have my sole….dumb sub pun intended. It has truly been a delight to connect with someone who is so understanding and yet so commanding.
I don’t think I could find a better Goddess to be part of me. I look forward to where we go in the future.
And you are a very good subbie boy who obeys his Goddess and pleases her very much. The future is exciting to be sure. Hold on, it’s going to be a bumpy ride. lol
Great Blog Skylar! All of those thing are very helpful. I have one more suggestion. Listen to the various podcasts and live events. This will give you a better feel for how the Mistresses interact and react naturally. I feel like I’ve been able to get the perfect Mistress every time since I started doing this—including a fantastic call with the amazingly talented Skylar!!
Thank you Dr. S, that is another great way to learn more about a Mistress. So glad you enjoyed our call, and I look forward to more down the road. xxx